One of the girls at my work just found out her boyfriend was cheating on her. She's been dating him for a while now, they live together, and were just a few weeks away from moving into a condo they bought together. From what I heard, he hasn't slept with anyone, but he's dating someone (whatever that means...taking some girl out to dinner...don't know if I buy the "hasn't slept with her" part). I never liked the guy anyway...I only met him once and barely said hi and my only impression was, "Wow, he's tall." But I still got bad vibes from hearing about him because 1.) He told her to vote for Bush because Kerry wanted to tax the rich and he'd be out of a job if he had to pay more taxes (wanker). 2.) They'd been living together for a long time and she really really wanted to get married, but he kept refusing or putting it off because he was married once before, even though they were buying a condo together. 3.) Another condition of getting married was that he didn't want kids. I don't want kids either, and neither does Shawn so that's fine. But she did want kids and that's not something you should have to give up. Yeah, so big wanker, and the general consensus at work is that she's better off without him, though it's terrible she's so hurt right now because she's one of the sweetest people I've ever met. (A few months ago she even arranged a surprise trip to Vegas for his birthday and invited all of his friends, even ones he'd been out of touch with for years. Wanker!)
The main reason why I'm posting about this...because quite frankly, it's not that much of a surprise, and better this happen now than after getting married or moving into the condo...is a discussion I had with another esthetician about it. Basically, she said, "Well, it's really hard because men are so visual. They're ruled by their urges." I said, "Yeah, but the decent ones can keep it in their pants." She agreed, but again said how much harder it is for guys, and how she can't imagine what it's like to be ruled by something outside of yourself. I guess the implication that all guys are fighting against their uncontrollable urges to fuck everything in sight bothers me. Probably because none of the guys I know are like that.
Are you? Guys on my f-list...are you constantly fighting against this mad urge to cheat on your girlfriend? Is it a daily struggle because you're so visual and women are these foul temptresses, constantly playing on your desires? If it was possible, would you run rampant in the streets, fucking anyone you could? Or maybe I'm crazy, because usually when couples I know break up, it's for different reasons, like drugs or lack of chemistry or lifestyles just becoming too different. What do you all think...do we just live in BizarroLand? Or am I right, and basically this guy is a wanker?